Good communication of United Kingdom children _ Meng Zi and dad

Two days ago, we attended a lecture on family education, organized by our parents to provide some information and recommended several describes United Kingdom family education Web site. In this one, we see a United Kingdom Ministry of education of the children in early childhood education and guidance. This guidance outlines, we noted that it proposed for children instruction and emotional development. This includes encouraging the development of the child's unique personality, build positive relationships, learn communication skills, challenges and dilemmas, independent processing problems, make reasonable choices and decisions, learn to observe the evaluate and plan, and so on. The child's emotional development guidance and requires tight of several pages. Watch the early education guidance framework to help but let us think of a child, a three years ago in eruption child birthday party encountered strange United Kingdom children. This is a very good at dealing with other people's children. The child was about eight or nine years old, we've not remember his name and appearance, however, we could hardly remember him we said every word, really impressed too deep. It is the eruption of the child to the United Kingdom in the first year of the birthday party, and in Finland birthday to good friends were invited to the home, in the United Kingdom, nowadays popular is good friends are invited to a recreation center, the children to play together, the Recreation Center is responsible for the child's birthday party. At that time, we invited almost all eruption sub class of the child to a called JUMP indoor amusement Centre, nature is very busy. Amusement center organized many activities in which an activity is half an hour of indoor football matches. In a large piece of soft mat kick a football, both fun and safe, the children were excited to have shouted, parents are on the ring outside view, certainly attract a lot of guys children's attention. Where a child is over, is naturally got chatting with us: "this is your son's birthday party?", we say yes, "he?", "seven-year-old" we answered. Then, he asked: "where are you from?", we said from China, he went on to say, "my father went to China, he said that China is good ...". We talked for a while, and then, he stopped to look after a child they play football, Meng, then went on to say: "your son football played very well! ...", we of course glad others boast Meng Zi, even from a child's mouth. But before we can do is proud of the world in the past, the most critical one sentence to: "I can go and play playing?", Hey, good kid, but also very able huyou! story end if here, nothing special. We have seen that there are more imaginative, will "set of magnetic" child, but subsequent events let us sit up and take note of the child. In fact, we also estimate the Recreation Center will not allow this child to play, because our party room. But we do not directly tell him we said to him: "you go and ask the Court of magistrates, he is here. "Listen to us so that the child really just come to find that the referee. And we suppose, that judgment does not let him, because he is not in the eruption child birthday party invited the children list. We did not think that this child go off to face and have no special not happy, but we laughed and said, "they won't let me play. "" Do you want us to go to for you to say? "we say to the child. "No, thank you. I was going to play something else! pleased to chat with you, back to you son, wished him a happy birthday! wow ", too God! no wonder before they say, the United Kingdom of children with adults is a bit like a gentleman, and in particular are down, it seems sure today! the next three years, we have seen many of these children, and adults talk talking to her, graciously, also especially polite. Have to admit that these children's performance in the key is to talk to their education that comes from the school of education, social impact and influence of the family, the child was brought up the courage to confidently communicate with others. They observe, they try, their empathy, their exchanges with others in the learned to deal with problems and optimistic about the independence of the setbacks and challenges. Go back and think about the country on their children's education, I'm afraid it's some missing. Exam-oriented education objective reality to schools, families and society will focus on the child focus in their intellectual development, and chemical in schools is language, home is a piano, go, calligraphy and painting in the community is the overwhelming sentiment to exam-oriented education tune and hard bawled various training courses. Because of this situation, we more or less ignored child EQ development, including their self-care ability, interpersonal skills, ability to adapt to the new environment. Schools, community and a lot of parents believe that as long as the child well, other deficiencies can take over. However, the children eventually to enter the community, is to deal with others is to independence in the face of difficulties and challenges. When parents are aware of the child have these problems are often already too late. We can only see their lack of communication skills, a lack of self-confidence, not good with people, social difference; do not know how to care for others, a lack of compassion; not good at independent thinking and action; some children even lack the basic activities of daily living. A while ago, we reported a CUPL graduates buy the wrong ticket on the Nanchang, subsequently unable to communicate with people directly in finding a job, and beggars, passed to something. Of course, this is an extreme example, but there is no denying that our education, especially in children with emotional education. One should have learned in the juvenile phase of basic survival skills, techniques, and even to graduated from College is met, it is very sad. Currently, our schools and the community in this regard is expected not to each other, and family education is only one way. But family education specifically what to do, how to guide and help children develop their emotional intelligence, you've really got our parents moved a lot? You have any good suggestions? speak out and share with others.